One of the biggest dating mistakes I’ve ever made was dating someone who thought he could learn polyamory purely through trial and error instead of studying it. Predictably, it was a disaster. When you’ve been conditioned all your life in monogamy, you can’t just transition to polyamory without challenging your worldview and preparing for the nervous system shocks that can arise. Theory and practice go hand in hand—understanding the concepts can help your mind navigate the challenges and regulat